Having my Tonsils Removed: Lessons Re-Learned
After experiencing challenges for some time, I made the decision to go ahead and have my tonsils removed. My ENT and I spoke about what the procedure entailed and it was scheduled for June 25th. I went through the necessary pre-surgery steps and followed the requirements from my job regarding taking time off. I remember speaking with a co-worker on June 24th, she shared that she heard I was having surgery and during that conversation I used the words I was ‘just having my tonsils removed’ – looking back, I guess I was trying not to make it a big deal.Needless to say, ‘just having my tonsils removed’ was quite an understatement. I had read and heard that having your tonsils removed as an adult was painful, I thought I was prepared but the pain was much greater than my preparation. The physical effects from the surgery was compounded by the emotional roller coaster associated with the intensity of the pain. Nights were the hardest and I would pray for daylight so I could feel a bit of relief from what felt like never ending pain. From my journey, I re-learned a few lessons:
Lesson #1: Ties that bind. Recovering from tonsillectomy forced me to put my ego aside and to be vulnerable; to allow my family and friends in, especially during the times when I was at my weakest. I needed the assistance of others and worrying about being a bother wasn’t going to serve me well. We talk a lot about being strong, for me this experience showed me that there is a great deal of strength in the ability to ask for and accept help. It took a village to help me through. I have been blessed with a wonderful family and felt so much love and support from them during my time of need.
Lesson #2: Recovery is a process. There were days when I felt like I was on the right track and then the sun went down and the pain intensity went up. I was reminded that while I had thoughts about the length of time to get to ‘good’ days, my body had its own schedule and it was in my best interest to listen to my body. I had to take baby steps and not push myself too much and focus on what I had control over. Nothing happens before the time and the best medicine for me was to rest and allow my body to heal on its own schedule.
Lesson #3: Letting go. I sometimes get caught up in the ‘things happening within a certain time-frame thinking.’ This experience reinforced the benefits of taking things easy and being open to receiving and accepting help. I am thankful for my older sisters who have no problem taking charge and checking me when needed. I removed my tonsils due to medical reasons, however, the process reminded me of the value of being flexible and going with the flow.
Until we meet again….Simone
